Some Thoughts About Rural America

I grew up in a small town in Ohio and I thought before we started this journey that I understood what growing up in a small town was.  What I meant by that though was living in a small suburb that had ready access to a larger city.  What I didn’t understand was what rural America was like.  Since we went on the road two years ago we have seen many rural towns.  The fortunate ones are located near a tourist attraction and draw big crowds and their dollars to the area.  Others have some local industry that keeps the town going and it is clear that investments have been made in local infrastructure.  Then there are those towns that have small populations, aren’t near much of anything and are pretty far from a major cities.  I have spent a month or more in towns like Luck Wisconsin, Susanville California, and Glenallen Alaska but none of those prepared me for Dilley Texas.

Luck, Wisconsin

Luck, Wisconsin

Susanville, California

Susanville, California

Glennallen, Alaska

Glennallen, Alaska

Glennallen, Alaska was the closest to this experience,  but I chalked it up to being in Alaska and the extreme remoteness of the environment and the unique culture of the people who lived there.  Likewise the Native American reservations we had stayed close to had cultural and historical reasons for what we saw.  Again, I thought not representative of average rural America.   And please don’t get me wrong, I am not picking on Dilley, Texas because they are certainly not alone.  We have passed through many of these small towns on our travels, but  they were a blink on our travels and we didn’t really see what living near one would be like.  After being here for over a month though, I realized I was wrong about many things.





Now I believe that those small towns we have breezed through have enough in common that they are representative of Rural America.  So let’s look at it.  The towns  usually have post offices, police stations, and some sort of fire department.  They also often have..



Ball fields

Ball fields

and football stadiums

and football stadiums

A local super market with limited selection and high prices

They also have a local super market with limited selection and high prices



A library

A library (the corvette shows some people have money in town)

And usually even at least one car dealership

And usually even at least one car dealership

It seems like there is always at least one dollar store

It seems like there is always at least one dollar store

a car wash

a car wash

A local medical center

A local medical center

And some kind of feed store. I usually love those because they have really cool stuff in them

And some kind of feed store. ( I love those because they have really cool stuff in them)

Most of the businesses are struggling in these small towns but a few manage to hang on and even as you see going out of business signs you will also see signs for new store openings.  And despite that there is always some sort of town center that shows identity and civic pride.


Local flower store


This one is going out of business


But this gym just opened up


The Wolves are the mascot of the local high school


The town “square” has a fire truck

And a watermelon statue

And a watermelon statue showing how much the local area produced

Just seeing the main streets though doesn’t really show you much about a town though, and going through the side streets shows you what is really going on.  When we are pulling the trailer we rarely leave the main roads, but when we are staying in a place we have more time to explore.  Dilley has a few nice houses.


Along with a couple apartment complexes and some house that are moderate but obviously well cared for.






What’s different in Dilley from other places we have stayed (except perhaps Glennallen) is there is also so much of this.

The only drug store in town which is going out of business this month.

The only drug store in town which is going out of business this month. The next closest one is 25 minutes away.

The local haircut place

The local haircut place

The EMT "headquarters"

The EMT “headquarters”

And the local daycare

And the local daycare



And so many of these types of houses.





Multiple residents on the same lot is something we see pretty frequently



And please don’t get me wrong I in no way mean any disrespect, but it does make me think about how different a persons life would be who grew up in one of these small rural towns versus someone who grew up in a suburb or a major city. There is obviously a major division in this country right now and there are lots and lots of people who live like this all over this country.  I really didn’t understand that before we went on the road, but we have seen so many rural towns especially in the south and out west and I feel like I somewhat get it now.  And please understand I am not a social scientist.  I am just a person who has thoughts about these sorts of things and I thought it was past time I wrote about it.  So with the hope of in no way offending anyone, here I go.

Seeing places like this makes me think about how environment changes people.  There has been quite a bit of research on the affects that growing up in inner city projects had on our young people, but what about growing up in one of these small towns.  I wonder how achievable does the American Dream feel to folks who are raised this way.   What is it like to be faced with such a stark contrast between the have and have nots on a daily basis?  Does this type of environment lead to extremes of either extreme self-reliance or extreme dependency? What does it do to a town over time when it’s best and brightest usually have to move away to find opportunity? And I often wonder for the Millennials at least if the internet is an equalizer.

Sure these folks can get in their cars and drive to San Antonio which is a couple of hours away, but how often do they really do that.  When I was a kid we went in Columbus somewhat frequently for shopping or events.  If you live in a big city you have access to public transportation and museums and libraries.  Not that inner city kids would necessarily go.  There are invisible barriers that are just as strong as physical ones, but out here these kids rely 100% on grownups to get them to other places.  And I can tell you from experience living out here on a budget you think long and hard before you spend the gas money to make those trips.

So lets assume that kids rarely get to go into the cities.  That means day after day they are filled with these images.  Lots of people say “I grew up poor but didn’t know it”, but I grew up poor and knew it.  I literally lived on the wrong side of the railroad tracks between the ages of 1 and 5. Even when we moved to the right side of the tracks we were still in the poorer sections of our small tow.  The difference was I went to school with kids and had family who lived in a more middle class environment.  The houses were small, but they were usually neat as a pin and the inside and outsides were treated with care.  I got to see the other side and as my parents pursued the American Dream we progressively moved into nicer apartment housing.  I was 13 when we bought our first home and still remember what a big deal that was and since it was in a nice middle class neighborhood I never lived in a home like one of these.  I knew houses like this existed of course, but they were tucked away on side streets and few and far between.

In these rural towns many of these homes are front a center.  There is no “bad section” of town, but rather a few pockets of houses that are more well cared for. I don’t remember anyone having fences when I was growing up, but here almost every house seems to have a fence, and the Beware of Dog and No Trespassing signs send a clear message to keep away. I don’t know specifically what kind of impact all of that has on a person, but I do believe it has some impact, it certainly does on us.  The picture in our mind of this country was lots of beautiful national parks interspersed with quaint little towns.  Certainly we have seen some of that, but much, much more of places like Dilley Texas.  There is more trash than we though there would be, more poverty. and as I said before more division between the haves and the have nots.  And the “Dilley, Texas experience” is so far away from places like New York City, Chicago, or Boston that it might as well be on another planet.

Or maybe not.  When you look a little closer people still love their kids, they definitely love sports, and there was plenty of evidence that people’s cars matter to them.  These folks have to eat, sleep, pay taxes, go to the grocery store, and get hair cut.  The surroundings are just different.  Does it really matter if you go to a small Baptist church versus a huge mega church, at its core maybe not.   Do the same general desires drive people to hang out with friends at the local bar versus going to some fancy night club, I think so.  Are our similarities greater than our differences, I hope so.  Two years ago my answer to that would have be an unequivocal yes. After seeing what we have seen I am not so sure of that anymore.  I will say though that one thing that we see everywhere we go that gives me hope is the American Flag.  It may mean slightly different things to different people, but it stands for something we can all believe in.


11 thoughts on “Some Thoughts About Rural America

  1. On the surface it might appear that the folks in these small rural towns are missing out on the “American Dream”, but I think the ideal that may not be obvious is that to these folks life is real. It’s not glitter and glitz like it might be in city environments. You may have realized that when you’ve been out and about, there may be smiles all around. Their lives may simple, but there is probably a very tight sense of community. Hard working folks no doubt.

  2. There has always been worry in the small rural towns about keeping kids around after they graduate from high school — how can they earn a living? Some might go away to college, but is there employment back home? It can be a problem at the state level too. The Internet could provide connection, but a lot of those areas only have dialup. A couple of authors I follow have that issue where they live, and one is very well off, but fact internet just isn’t in his area.

  3. I am presently staying just outside Bouse, Arizona with a population of under 1000. It too, doesn’t have much going for it, but they do have pride even if the money is tight. Being from Illinois I am shocked at how many small towns in the Southwest are struggling to stay alive. Many are mining towns and as mines shut down so do the towns. Just take almost any exit along the interstate and drop into a small town and you will see what it is really like out here between the big cities.

  4. Very well written. I travel across our country alot as a retiree. I’ve thought alot about this subject but I think you summed my thought well. I grew up in a rural, small town. Thanks for your article.

  5. This is all so subjective. We grew up in a more “suburban” area – commute distance to NYC – and still had a lot of the same issues you talk about these small towns having. There was the poor side of town and the not poor side of town. And we all knew who lived where. In spite of being from the “wrong” side of town – it was a very close-knit town and Bill and I were initially very disappointed to have to move to an even cheaper area to afford a house. After moving down the shore, to a nicer area, we’d go home and realize how poor our town was – don’t get me wrong – we always knew but living outside it made it even more apparent. We still love to visit and take a walk down memory lane sometimes, but not sure I’d want to live there again. Businesses still close up and others move in to give it a try – roads are a mess and it’s hit or miss whether your neighbors take care of their property or not. Guess my point is – even suburban areas suffer the same things rural areas do.

  6. The complicated part about growing up in a rural community is that while you have tremendous support, your resources are often limited. For example, my very small high school in a very small town offered 4 AP classes total. When I got to college, my peers were much more academically advanced than I was simply because of opportunity. Today, things like dual enrollment programs with community colleges helps to ease the gap, but what many people don’t realize is that in these pockets around America, people still don’t have “basics” like access to the Internet. The vast majority of my county’s population does not have access to high speed Internet, so those external resources that a lot of other populations have are simply not available. I think you are spot on to consider the limited nature of those lifestyles, and yes, many people choose to stay there. However, when the better paying jobs are an hour away, they become cost prohibitive when you have to calculate in having a good car, gas money, maintenance, and extra child care time because of your commute. Additionally, many who stay there are in fields that require skilled trades, something that is still highly valued in those communities. Some are able to make a solid career for themselves, but then their service base is limited because there is a finite population to serve. It is a very complicated cycle, and I think you are right to pinpoint the under resourced nature at the heart of the issue. How we define resources is entirely open ended. Thank you for taking to time to write about small town America. We often get overlooked.

    • Thank you very much. I appreciate your thoughtful comments and first hand experience. High speed internet is an excellent point as we have certainly seen its lack in our remote travels. This does limit options. And your thoughts regard the cycle were outstanding. Thank you again for adding these thoughts and accepting the post in the spirit that was intended.


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