An Update On Lee

I have started to write this post multiple times but the situation has been somewhat fluid and it’s always harder for me to write about what Lee is experiencing when I am not there. But because it matters to the overall story of our full timing, I am going to give it a shot, please just keep in mind that although he will review this post prior to it going out, the words are largely mine.

Let me start by backing up a little bit. In December 2022 we arrived in Los Angeles with the goal of spending a couple of months here sightseeing and doing touristy things, such as Disneyland, and some studio tours, and then moving on with our travel. Instead, Lee fell head over heels in love with LA, and decided he wanted to take me up on my long time offer of staying here for a while and trying to make a career in the television and movie industry. This was always Lee’s childhood dream, when other kids were playing ball, he was making movies with his friends. He actually got his first job to make money to buy film. That job is where we met each other, in fact, and he talked me into being a scantily clad villain’s girlfriend in a spy movie. He made his own films with those same friends, and me, all the way up until our third child was born, and he got his first real job doing “adjacent” work, which sort of fulfilled that creative need. Anyway, dragging a young family out to Hollywood on a dream wasn’t realistic when we were in our early twenties, but as soon as the last kid left the nest it was one of the things we talked about before deciding to full time.

Ten years ago he thought that that ship had probably sailed, but then we arrived here and he truly fell in love with this place. Things like weather, traffic, too many people, all of which drove him crazy in other places didn’t matter at all here, because he loved the history and the culture. Every time he came home from some errand or drive he would be full of excitement because he had seen something in person he had only ever seen in a movie, or stood where Chaplin, or Hitchcock, or DeMille stood. He was giddy to be in a place where names like Harry Cohn, William Fox, Carl Laemmle, Louis B. Mayer, Jack and Harry Warner, and Adolph Zucker weren’t just ink on paper in a book, but actual giants of history. He drove around town looking for places from 100 years ago and was amazed at how much of it was still there, right where it always was, just waiting for him to get here. For the first time in his entire life, he felt comfortable and at home. He walked into Chateau Marmont like he had been there a thousand times before, and was just popping in for a nightcap with Douglas Fairbanks before driving up to Griffith Park to look down at the carpet of twinkling lights.

This was his dream place AND it was living up to his expectations, which is a rare combination for anyone. I, of course, hated it, but I love my husband so I was determined to give it a chance.

So, how DO you break into the entertainment industry at this level? Well, it’s not easy. Most people who come here with big dreams wash out in the first year, and even the ones that stay end up working in “adjacent” industries. But Lee decided to go for the gold, to dream big, and so far has stuck with that plan. The beginning for him was complicated by two main things. First things had slowed down to a trickle in anticipation of a massive strike by both the writers and the actors. Lee made his decision in early April, and the writers strike began May 2. Then the actors went on strike on July 14. The writers strike ended September 27, but the actors strike didn’t end until November 9, making it one of the longest Hollywood work stoppage in history. Second, he got some bad advice from folks he knew who worked out here.

It turns out this is a company town, and just like any company, who you know or are related to matters, unfortunately a lot more than it should. There are lots of people working in the industry who only have their job because of a relative and it is VERY hard for outsiders to break in no matter what their talent level. Especially in the camera department, which we later learned is the most cliquish of a very clannish industry. None of the tips and tricks he was being given were getting him anywhere at all, and after many months of waiting and trying to get hired on the precious few projects that were happening during the strike, Lee spoke with a good friend of a good friend of his who gave him the best advice he had gotten so far. After that meeting he talked to me about volunteering for experience, credits and networking.

You have to build a reputation here and it’s all about your show credits. That shows that you are serious and have experience working in the unique environment here and no amount of outside experience matches having credits shot on films or TV shows in LA. Also most of those are union and you can’t get into the union without X amount of credits established so you see the chicken/egg problem. How do you get around that? You work for free.

When Lee first came to talk to me about this tactic I was all for it. First it would get him out of the house and secondly it would help build his network. I thought of it like an unpaid internship and it really changed things. First, he has been working steadily almost nonstop for nearly three months, and I will call it work because these are 10-12 hour days, on your feet, and the work he is doing is no less because he is volunteering. He has also met quite a few people in the industry which has led to one paid job on a commercial and one pilot shoot on spec. On spec by the way means you don’t get paid unless the pilot gets picked up. It’s unlikely this pilot will get picked up but it was a very good experience for him. He’s also learning a LOT of things. He already knew a lot, but the gaps are getting filled in fast.

Of the eight films he’s worked on, half of them have been for the American Film Institute (AFI) Master’s thesis films. These are shorts that have a base budget of $50K and the students are mostly from other countries. One of the films was in Hindi, and another was in Spanish, and he doesn’t speak either of those languages. The crews are made up of other students, but also industry people from every level, and even one very advanced high school student! (One of the things he has learned is that even long time industry pros need to meet new people and so they “give back” on these shorts to meet those new up and comers.) Lee’s initial “in” on his first AFI film was that he can (and is willing to) drive a box truck. He has a lot of experience driving these trucks and since there have been too many instances when inexperienced students drive them and have accidents they are always looking for drivers. The first person he met was a visual effects supervisor for Marvel movies who was the husband of the producer who “hired” him for that project and he was helping out his wife on her thesis, for free, just like everyone else.

Initially driving the truck was all they wanted him for, but Lee held firm and told them that if they wanted a truck driver he had to be given another role as well, and he felt his overall widely varied experience and knowledge would be useful on set. This was actually really great because it gave him an opportunity to work as a Prop Master, Unit Stills (take pictures of the set and behind the scenes), camera department utility (sort of like an intern for the camera department), and Second assistant camera (2nd AC). What was absolutely awesome abut this is with less pressure he could learn about what roles he likes and doesn’t like and in the end he decided his favorite was 2nd AC.

The 2nd AC is always in the middle of the action. They stand right next to the camera, with the director and the cinematographer, which he loves. He does everything from swapping out $80k lenses, swapping out filters, managing the power for the camera, moving and mounting the camera, maintaining detailed records of each shot and take for the editors, assisting the operator for handheld shots, assisting the Steadicam operator if needed, placing marks for actors, measuring the distance from actors to the film gate to snapping the slate at the beginning of each take. (He’s fond of saying he’s in every scene in the movie but his best stuff ends up on the cutting room floor) He also makes sure the DP and/or operator and 1st AC has everything they need. It is an insanely fast paced, intense job requiring tons of focus and the ability to track many details simultaneously while thinking ahead. Not surprisingly he is pretty good at it. The bad news though is the camera departments like to work with people they have worked with before, because anticipation of needs is important and only comes with time. That being said he has learned a great deal from these opportunities not just about what he likes to do but the general culture on the set.

Despite having nearly 40 years of solid experience in “adjacent” fields, Hollywood is like going from the minors to the majors. There are certain things that just aren’t done that an outsider wouldn’t know. For example, Lee wore a shirt one day that said “Don’t worry, we’ll fix it in post” which is an industry inside joke that essentially means we’ll let the editors figure it out. People were NOT amused. His DP quietly told him to never wear that shirt on his set again. When he came home that night the shirt went right into the trash can and he ordered one that said “We’ll fix it on set” for the next time he worked with that DP. As a general rule everyone loves his industry specific T-shirts but that one was not well received. Weird right? Well, culture is culture, which is another reason I think of it as an internship.

And physically he has learned he can take it. No one cares about how old he is, which he was worried about, but it is a very physical job and you have to be able to keep up. Thankfully Lee still has it, and another nice side benefit of all this work is he is down three holes on his belt. And on his first late night shoot all the young folks were staggering around like zombies at 2am and he was wide awake and bright eyed and full of zip, without even having any coffee. All those long days and late nights working for Mills James and at big concerts is still in there somewhere.

All in all he has learned a ton and the time was incredibly well spent. Plus, just look at him. Look at his face. He is energized in a way I haven’t seen for a long time.

This is his first film, Time Writer, a supernatural thriller. He was prop master and helped with the practical visual effect of making the typewriter type by itself. A perfect example of his age working to his advantage, nobody knew how to operate any part of an old manual typewriter, but he did.
The DP was impressed with him on Time Writer so he was invited to be 2nd AC on Into Dust, a drama.

Each project has led to the next. If people like you, and want to work with you, they ask for you. That part is working out exactly as it was described to him by others.

One of the other cool things about these projects is they use props from the major studios and prop houses at a deeply discounted rate. As a driver Lee has gotten to spend tons of time in a couple of prop houses along with other industry specific equipment providers. He loves the tech and has a blast those days just seeing what only insiders can see. Here are some pictures from one of his prop house visits. He was most excited about the long aisles of fake food. Gotta say it’s all very impressive.

Along with the prop houses he has gotten to go into some really cool locations. Three movie ranches, a couple of gorgeous homes in the Hollywood hills, and a neat cave. The locations have been very fun for him as well and with a different “office” everyday he is loving the variety and the challenges. This is where his age and life experience can really be a huge advantage. Several times he’s been able to step in to “MacGyver” a solution in one of the locations after nobody else could figure it out, and impressing the hell out of other people on the crew. I like those stories because it shows the difference between our generation and the younger ones, plus I always like when he comes up with unique solutions to problems. One DP told him she loved that he never came to her to tell her about a problem, he only told her what the solution was and that he had already taken care of it.

In any event he has been super busy but the school season is over and we both agree it is time to start trying to morph more towards paying gigs or at least non school related volunteer work. He has some ideas about that and we will see how that goes, but for now I am glad he is taking a break. Not only have I missed him but I have quite the long “honey do” list going 🙂 Seriously though, the last couple of months he has been happier than I have seen him in a very long time, and that is really great to see.

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First Time seeing Palm Beach

Although my parents have vivid memories of going to Palm Beach when I was a kid, for me at least I don’t really have any memories. Palm Beach was a big deal even back in the early 70’s and an even bigger deal now that President Trump’s Mara-a-lago residence is there. And since I like to visit Presidential locations when I travel Mom and I took my one non working day on the visit and went to Palm Beach. Early Sunday morning by the way is a nice time to go if you want to avoid the crowds and we got to see everything I wanted before the day got to hot.

First off we stopped at the Breakers which is a historical hotel that I do vaguely remember going to as a kid. Mom wanted to show me the renovation and I was very impressed by the Italian designs and in particular the beautiful ceilings. We also went into a really cool gift store and had an ice tea and a croissant in the beautiful courtyard. It was really nice.

The one downside of the breakers which I do remember is that they don’t have a very good beach as it is largely rocky. My grandmother Pat, never one for fancy, used to turn up her nose at the expense because her beach was better than there’s. That is 100% true by the way and my Grandparents made extra money by flipping houses back before that was even a thing. For her it was 100% about location and those instincts served her very well. Anyways it was nice and I did enjoy the gift shops, but I don’t feel the need to stay there anytime soon.

After that we drove down to Mar-a-lago, which it turns out is the former home of Emily Post. It is on the point and has wonderful views of the ocean but we couldn’t see much and of course security was everywhere. We did see the large Presidential flag at 1/2 mast and got a really good view of the guest beach houses which are right on the water. Honestly I always thought it was on a golf course but that location is a few minutes away. It is much smaller piece of property than I thought it would be though in all fairness it is a prime piece of real estate. I snapped a couple of pictures from the car sorry they aren’t very good.

Afterwards I thought we were done but Mom really wanted to go to Worth Avenue. According to Mom, this is the second richest shopping district in the US after Rodeo Dr and has some really cool courtyards and stores. It was getting pretty hot but I said I would check it out if we could walk in the shade and I will say the courtyards are pretty cool. I didn’t care much about the shops (except for Tiffany’s and a cool rare book store) but the courtyards were nice.

Many of the shops and restaurants were closed but we shared a pizza (which was super pricey but delicious) in a little outdoor cafe and then headed back. If you just want to stroll around I actually recommend Sunday morning because its a cramped space and it was nice hardly anyone was there. Plus parking was a $15 flat rate versus the usual $8 per hour.

I had a lovely time with Mom and the only thing that went wrong was on the penultimate day I got some sand in my eye and scratched it. Thankfully my Mom is a retired Nurse practitioner and she had all the stuff I needed to fix me it. I could have lived about that last bit though but other than that I had a wonderful time and am really looking forward to going back. I will say this and many of you who know me will be surprised, I could see myself living on Singer Island at some point. But I can’t really see Lee living there so not sure that will ever happen but I really liked it. Speaking of Lee I really owe you guys an updated on how all of that is going, and I promise I will try to write something up. The situation remains very fluid but I will do the best I can in the next post.

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Returning to Singer Island

When I was a little girl we didn’t have much in the way of money, but I did have grandparents who lived in Florida and almost every year my parents found a way for us to take a trip and go stay on Singer Island. My first trip (and airplane ride) was when I was three years old and even though I don’t remember much of that trip, my memories are full of experiences from many others.

From Left Great-Grandpa Larry, Great Grandma Alice, Grandpa Charlie, Grandma Pat

Take the above picture for example. I have a hard copy picture of the same statue I took when I was about 8 and another hard copy with friends when I went on Spring Break in high school. I was super excited to take another picture at 57 because this place and this statue have deep roots and memories for me.

My Mom has always talked about moving there and I was very excited for her when she bought a condo in the exact same condo complex that my grandparents and great-grandparents lived. What’s even greater is that very little has changed. Although this small 3 story building is now surrounded by high rises, the condo complex is mainly owned by generations of families and they have consistently refused to sell. Driving in I was flooded with memories and it was truly really special.

My Mom is actually on the second floor in a one bedroom and it is really nice. I got to tour several of the condos while there and I liked Mom’s the best. The one bedrooms are 680 square feet but that doesn’t include the Lanai. Some people use there’s for storage, but Mom like my grandparents use it as extended living space and I always slept on the lanai as a kid. Not all of the condos have a view of the ocean (Mom has a bit of one) but the real draw is how close you are to the ocean. There is a lovely pool (where I learned to dive as a kid) and then a short walk to a private entrance and you are on the beach. And what a beach it is. It doesn’t have the white sands of the gulf, but I loved the Atlantic ocean waves and walking on that send took me back in an instant.

As I said its surrounded by tons of high rises including a Ritz Carlton residences and multiple Marriott vacation villas but the Villas really stands out or doesn’t because from the beach you can just barely see the top floor. The last time I visited was on a work trip after the 2009 hurricanes and although many of the high rises were wrecks the Villas hung on.

The purpose of the trip was to see my Mom but also find out if I could work remotely and get out of LA for awhile. Thankfully that worked really well so I spent the weekdays working and the evenings going out and seeing things. When Mom asked me what I wanted to do I actually said I just want to see the town as it is today. We went to numerous thrift stores at my request and ate out at few restaurants. But mainly it was just hanging out and walking on the beach or swimming in the pool which was totally fine with me!

One new things we saw was the Manatee Lagoon which is right down the road from Mom. This wasn’t here when I was a kid and even though we didn’t see any manatees it was still fun. I didn’t realize manatees were on the east coast as well, and will need to come back in winter when they are more likely to be in the warmer waters near the electrical plant.

I think Mom’s favorite day was when we celebrated Mother’s Day early and I treated her to dinner at Carmine’s Gourmet Market which is a local favorite restaurant and specialty Italian market. Dinner was good but the market is really someting special and I can’t believe how much they have in such a relatively small space. Amazing and if you are ever there I highly recommend the market at least.

My favorite thing though was totally random. We were driving to the Manatee Lagoon and I saw a building that looked familiar. I asked Mom to stop and we walked into a wonderland of shells. This building has been in existence since “forever” according to the current owner and I have strong memories of going there as a child and looking at all the shells. This time I was extra excited because I have been looking for shells to make patterns in my pottery and they had bins and bins all for 25 cents to $2. Amazing !!!

Next up I’ll share my one day off where we went to see Mar-a-lago and Palm Beach!

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